You have a crush on a girl and you’re interested in getting to know her a little more? Sweet! That’s awesome. But, how do you ask her out? What are some good date ideas? I got ya covered.
Friends first.
If you’re already friends with this girl, this can be a bit tricky, but also a good thing. You’re probably a bit scared because if you open up and tell her how you feel, she might reject you and make the friendship awkward. Unrequited love, or a one sided crush can lead to embarrassment and ruin the ‘vibes’ between you and your crush. However, if you and your crush have been friends for quite some time, you already have a foundation of friendship. I would definitely suggest getting to know a girl, as a friend, in a platonic way, before even asking her out on a date. You would be taking the time to evaluate your compatibility as a couple, without putting your hearts at risk. If you are friends, and you decide that staying friends with your crush, is a good choice, then don't ask her out. Maybe discern the idea a little more, no rush. If you are friends, and decide that you are interested in pursuing her, as a date, go ahead and move forward with asking her out.
Be intentional.
What does it mean to be intentional? It means asking her out on a date! Not to hangout, not to a platonic coffee meet up. You are interested in pursuing her, so ask her if she would like to go on a date with you. But you need to make it clear that it's a date.
Dude, I know it's scary to ask her out, but just do it. Go ahead and ask her out, on a date, in person. Here are a few things you can say:
" Hey, Ashley, I think you're really sweet and it would be great to take you out on a date."
" It would be great to get to know you. Would you be interested in going on a coffee date with me?"
" I think you're really cool, would you like to grab lunch next week?"
If you aren't able to ask her out in person, you can still be intentional with your question in a text message. But asking her in person shows her that you're confident and bold enough to ask her. I get it, it is scary to get rejected on the spot, if things don't work out.
"Hey Anna. I was wondering if you would like to go on a date next week. I think you're really sweet and I would like to get to know you a little more."
"Hey Ashley. There's a new coffee shop down the street, are you interested in going on a coffee date?"
Prepare to get rejected.
It's definitely scary to go up to a girl you like and ask her out. It's embarrassing if you get rejected. I get it, it sucks. If she says "no", that's all good. Her not accepting the date isn't the end of the world. Get on with your day, pat yourself on the back for having the courage to ask her out on a date, and move on.
Keep it short, sweet and simple.
A first date shouldn't take longer than 30min or an hour. Grabbing coffee or going out to dinner is a great opportunity to sit down, talk to her, face to face, and hangout. Talk about small things! Ask her how her day is going, ask her if she has a favorite movie, what are her favorite hobbies -- get to know who she is. If she's interested in hiking, playing sports, or any outdoor activity, it would be good to keep note of those activities in case things go well and you're looking for something to do on a second or third date.
Here are a few questions you can ask her during your date:
What do you do for fun?
Do you have a favorite movie, TV series, book?
What is something that makes you happy?
Do you have a favorite music artist(s)?
It’s just a date.
Dude, chill! It's only the first date. You are getting to know the girl in a very causal manner. You're not asking her to be your wife, you're not asking her to live with you on a farm in the distant countryside -- it's just a date! Have fun and hangout!
*Always pay for your date. Never split the check.
Take care,
Blessed and Broken
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